Allah is always present. It is we who deviate from being with Him. If we were aware of His presence with every breath then our expression of compassion, kindness, love, sensitivity, peace etc and so on would be realized. It would be realized as His and we would not take claim or ownership of that which is a manifestation of Allah. When we claim that we are kind, we are nice, we are taking possession of His attributes.
Who is kind? Who is nice? Allah is, and when we claim them then we are in shirk (claiming we are God). These claims include identifying with our roles as loving wife/husband,mother/father,/daughter/son, kind neighbor, faithful friend, honest person. If I say out loud- ‘I can not own being nice, I have faults, I make mistakes’-it may instigate feelings of emptiness at first because, well, you may ask who am I then? Aren’t I saying negative things about myself? No, in my experience, this is admitting that there is a power/energy greater than me in control. Yes, even in control of me. I am not in control. Allah is in control. Whew, does that feel good to say or what? My job is to be in a loving, relationship with Allah. This relationship occurs when the brain and heart connect and act accordingly in each situation that arises; this may actualize by being nice when the moment calls for it, by speaking the truth to somebody when you really want to just smile and walk away, by loving my child, by telling my mother that I love her but I can’t talk right now. My job is not to be in control of each and every minute detail.
Whatever arises in each moment is an opportunity to make rabita (heart connection) with Allah and see what is necessary to say, do or pray. In this way to be the vessel, the conduit for His compassion, love, kindness, healing nature, understanding, Truth.
It’s said in the Quran “Allah is closer than your jugular vein”. The heart is actively pumping the blood through our arteries and veins exchanging gases from carbon dioxide to oxygen giving us life force. See how much Allah loves us! Our bodies are doing His zikr without our even being aware. Our heart beats A-llah, A-llah, A-llah, A-llah, A-llah. Our breath sings Allah Huuuuu, Allah Huuuuu, Allah Huuuu. See how much we can love Allah.